Nothing wrong with tears
Nothing wrong with tears Many of us don’t know how to respond to a person who is crying. In the absence of the right skills and tools, we can create a gap between ourselves and our loved ones. The reason responding in a helpful manner is difficult is because nobody teaches us or models it for us. In fact, we stray away from talking about tears and how to respond to them. Crying has always been seen as a sign of weakness, especially in men, making it a sensitive topic to touch. The result is that we react instead of responding. We act out of our own discomfort. We say, “Don’t cry”, or “Strong people don’t cry”, or “This isn’t something to cry about”, “I don’t like seeing you cry”, “You don’t look good when you cry” because we would rather cheer them up than deal with tears. And we sometimes do that with the best of intentions. In fact, we think that we are being supportive. (A popular one is, “how will crying solve the problem?”. This is an interesting one and I hope people s...