philosophy of a sassy empath

“Overthinking” has become a buzz word in the last few years. Many of us are self-proclaimed “overthinkers” who seemingly think to a point of self-sabotage. I am one of those people whose own mind can be their biggest enemy sometimes. However, the lingo around it has never appealed to me. I am a thinker and I love thinking. The term “overthinking” however, suggests that if I think over a certain threshold then it’s problematic. I have now come to the conclusion that this notion is completely false. There is no such thing as over thinking. There is only unorganized thinking. There is only unintentional thinking. Great thinkers who have created popular movies, businesspeople who have created enormous wealth for themselves by creating value for others, writers who have written best-selling books, have all spent a considerable amount of time thinking and planning down to the last detail. They have, if you will, OVER-thought; thought more than the average person. Therefore, overthinking, in ...

  One type of love doesn’t compensate for another. In the modern world, we have popularized the idea of giving ourselves the type of love we want from a partner. We send and consume the message that if we buy ourselves flowers that would compensate for the romance with another person. It’s a simple enough concept to understand as soon as the type of love we talk about changes. When a parent dies, we can comprehend that a great mother who unconditionally loves her child cannot compensate for the lost love of a father. Those relationships are not interchangeable. Similarly, your relationship with yourself is not interchangeable with your romantic relationship and vice versa. Taking care of yourself and having a positive inner environment does not make up for a lack of romance. At the same time, the greatest romance cannot make up for a lack of positive self-image and self-worth. However, since your relationship with yourself is at the center of every other relationship, it is sti...

  Vulnerability is a contentious topic. As the world is moving from fixating only on what damage can be seen to emotional and mental problems, vulnerability comes into the spotlight. Suddenly there are books over books about it, and everyone has an opinion on it. There are people who believe being vulnerable should be prevented at all costs and others who think that being a completely open book for anyone to read through is a virtue. However, vulnerability is not often about the act of being vulnerable but the intention and purpose behind it. Its premise is what makes it either healthy and helpful or unhealthy and unhelpful. Sometimes people use something painful that happened or is happening to justify their unkindness without the intention and work to mitigate those patterns. Vulnerability without accountability is manipulation. Vulnerability is not guilting a partner into staying with you despite how disrespectfully you treat them because you grew up in a toxic environment...

 Nothing wrong with tears Many of us don’t know how to respond to a person who is crying. In the absence of the right skills and tools, we can create a gap between ourselves and our loved ones. The reason responding in a helpful manner is difficult is because nobody teaches us or models it for us. In fact, we stray away from talking about tears and how to respond to them. Crying has always been seen as a sign of weakness, especially in men, making it a sensitive topic to touch. The result is that we react instead of responding. We act out of our own discomfort. We say, “Don’t cry”, or “Strong people don’t cry”, or “This isn’t something to cry about”, “I don’t like seeing you cry”, “You don’t look good when you cry” because we would rather cheer them up than deal with tears. And we sometimes do that with the best of intentions. In fact, we think that we are being supportive. (A popular one is, “how will crying solve the problem?”. This is an interesting one and I hope people s...

  What is Intellectual Loneliness? High intellect is ordinarily looked at as an advantage in the world, but for some folks, being smarter than people around them, can also be an extremely isolating experience. This can happen to anyone and isn’t necessarily exclusive to intellectually gifted minds. When one is self-reflective, emotionally aware, when one’s lens is different from their peers, their values unique, and passions that stimulate their brain distinguished from others, it can be overwhelmingly challenging to fit in. To be intellectual can mean different things to different people. But in the sense we are talking about today, it refers to people who experience life more intensely than others. They observe more, ponder more, and go deeper into subjects that their counterparts close on the surface. They hide complexities within their heart and mind. Additionally, they might refrain from putting their ideas forward in the fear of failing to make them sound sane to other pe...

Facts About Child Development Parents Should Know No one knows everything about Child Development and Parenting when they become parents and that’s okay. What’s important is that parents invest the effort to learn about Child development and alter their nurturing accordingly. Several basic aspects of development are known, but numerous scientific facts that majorly influence the child’s biology, psychology, and sociology sometimes hide themselves in books designed for Medical Professionals and Child and Youth Care Workers. For instance, growth and development follows a cephalocaudal pattern, which means that growth starts from head to toe. This information is essential to understand why the baby’s face might appear larger in comparison to the rest of the body. It also sheds light on the fact that the brain develops early on, and babies begin absorbing information before even being born. The body also develops at the center first towards outside, this is called proximal- distal develo...