philosophy of a sassy empath

  One type of love doesn’t compensate for another. In the modern world, we have popularized the idea of giving ourselves the type of love we want from a partner. We send and consume the message that if we buy ourselves flowers that would compensate for the romance with another person. It’s a simple enough concept to understand as soon as the type of love we talk about changes. When a parent dies, we can comprehend that a great mother who unconditionally loves her child cannot compensate for the lost love of a father. Those relationships are not interchangeable. Similarly, your relationship with yourself is not interchangeable with your romantic relationship and vice versa. Taking care of yourself and having a positive inner environment does not make up for a lack of romance. At the same time, the greatest romance cannot make up for a lack of positive self-image and self-worth. However, since your relationship with yourself is at the center of every other relationship, it is sti...

  Vulnerability is a contentious topic. As the world is moving from fixating only on what damage can be seen to emotional and mental problems, vulnerability comes into the spotlight. Suddenly there are books over books about it, and everyone has an opinion on it. There are people who believe being vulnerable should be prevented at all costs and others who think that being a completely open book for anyone to read through is a virtue. However, vulnerability is not often about the act of being vulnerable but the intention and purpose behind it. Its premise is what makes it either healthy and helpful or unhealthy and unhelpful. Sometimes people use something painful that happened or is happening to justify their unkindness without the intention and work to mitigate those patterns. Vulnerability without accountability is manipulation. Vulnerability is not guilting a partner into staying with you despite how disrespectfully you treat them because you grew up in a toxic environment...