Identity is revealed not formed

 The guidance we are looking for is within us. I know it's a cliché but there is a huge revelation in this for anyone who chooses to truly hear.
A lot of times we think that finding ourselves is about adding more to our life: more skills, more experiences. But what I know to be true is this: we become ourselves by shedding away what we are not.
When we are able to silence all the noise on the outside is when we can truly hear what has always been inside. It has been in inspiration. It has been in the frustration with what our life looks like. It has been in the nudge we feel to do something differently.
It's similar to carving wood. We get a big blob of wood and define it by slowly chipping away at it to create a sculpture. The same way, we define ourselves by chipping away what we are not.

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